For me, unschooling has been incredibly healing. As modern human’s we all have inner voids. The way many of us were birthed, raised, and schooled has been a key factor as to why we unschool our own children. We are looking for that whole, nurturing, and loving relationship with our children that we intuitively know should be there. Some of us struggle, to not have to struggle. If that makes any sense.
On a certain message board I belong to, there has been a lot of discussion about “mother issues”. Issues with our own adult mothers. It is the most painful thing on earth to grow up misunderstood, unsupported and unloved by your own mother. It scars emotionally and intrinsically. The damage done from poor mothering is irreversible. It is imprinted on your soul like a bad tattoo.
Unschooling has given me and many others I have spoken with, a way to completely end the vicious cycle of parent-child detachment, and allowed them to heal there wounds in ways they (and I) never thought possible. Why do we, as humans, accept the angst ridden relationships that kids have with their parents these days, as normal? Why do we think that teenagers who harbor anger, guilt, and resentment are just growing up normally? It’s easy to blame the schools, the peers, and the media.
Many parents bet the problem lies within their children.
I bet not.
It is healing! You’re not just unschooling your children- but yourself as well.
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Amen!
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I’ve been thinking a lot about such issues lately, how children are blamed for bad behavior when they are only reacting to their parents’ hostility and shaming. I was at a funeral and the man’s only son was disinvited for having been awful to and about his dad. But having known all involved for years, the parents were godawful long before the boy considered reacting badly to it. It’s heartbreaking to see it, but it’s all around us. When I’m nice to my child, I’m nice to the child inside me at the same time.
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