Comments on: Unparenting? http://www.eclecticreality.net/2008/06/unparenting/ Tue, 31 Jan 2012 02:38:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kelly http://www.eclecticreality.net/2008/06/unparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-140 Kelly Fri, 04 Jul 2008 23:39:00 +0000 http://www.swissarmywife.net/?p=102#comment-140 It seems like I especially see Liz echoing things from me once I'm making an effort to change a particular thing. Then I have to remind myself it's not fair to get annoyed with the 15 year old for doing something I've only just realized isn't cool at 40. Go figure. It seems like I especially see Liz echoing things from me once I’m making an effort to change a particular thing. Then I have to remind myself it’s not fair to get annoyed with the 15 year old for doing something I’ve only just realized isn’t cool at 40. Go figure.

]]> By: Tara http://www.eclecticreality.net/2008/06/unparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-139 Tara Tue, 01 Jul 2008 21:09:00 +0000 http://www.swissarmywife.net/?p=102#comment-139 I know in the beginning, and especially when hanging out with veteran unschoolers, I had no idea how to react and felt stupid asking them how they would react. Often times I wouldn't react while trying to figure it out. Never in terms of violence, but other things.<br/><br/>There are however times in our unschooling group when the kids - who are all extremely close - get into it with each other. We usually don't step in. We've found we make it worse. Instead we allow them to come to us if the situation is getting too big. But usually they all work it out and forget it happened. We obviously can't do this when there are newbies around. :) <br/><br/>I think it's easy for others to look at what we're doing and see only what we're *not* doing. They don't get to see the conversations or "A-ha" moments that happen behind the scenes. Many times I let Z push some boundaries so that he could see the reactions from those around him. I kept myself out of it so he could see the real effects of something he did/said. I don't care anymore how it looks to people who don't get what we do. Just like I don't mind when I feel the need to say stop or no around veterans anymore.<br/><br/>I think I just no longer give a rat's a$$ what anyone thinks of us anymore. We all just gotta do what we do and know *we* know the truth. As well as learn right along side our kids. :)<br/><br/>Either way it's about non-judgement. I'm good at not accepting judgement. I probably still give it too often. Especially to "conventional" parents. You should write a post about that! ;) I know in the beginning, and especially when hanging out with veteran unschoolers, I had no idea how to react and felt stupid asking them how they would react. Often times I wouldn’t react while trying to figure it out. Never in terms of violence, but other things.

There are however times in our unschooling group when the kids – who are all extremely close – get into it with each other. We usually don’t step in. We’ve found we make it worse. Instead we allow them to come to us if the situation is getting too big. But usually they all work it out and forget it happened. We obviously can’t do this when there are newbies around. :)

I think it’s easy for others to look at what we’re doing and see only what we’re *not* doing. They don’t get to see the conversations or “A-ha” moments that happen behind the scenes. Many times I let Z push some boundaries so that he could see the reactions from those around him. I kept myself out of it so he could see the real effects of something he did/said. I don’t care anymore how it looks to people who don’t get what we do. Just like I don’t mind when I feel the need to say stop or no around veterans anymore.

I think I just no longer give a rat’s a$$ what anyone thinks of us anymore. We all just gotta do what we do and know *we* know the truth. As well as learn right along side our kids. :)

Either way it’s about non-judgement. I’m good at not accepting judgement. I probably still give it too often. Especially to “conventional” parents. You should write a post about that! ;)

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